My Period, My Way

A guest post by 
Kerry Sauriol

I was “lucky” and was a bit of a late bloomer when it came to getting my period.  My mother sagely exclaimed that ‘I was a woman now,’ and handed me this atrocious book about how our bodies worked.  My mom used pads, and therefore so did I.  I honestly don’t recall discussing alternative or periods with anyone at that time, especially any peers.   Those were sparse at that time as we had just emigrated from the UK.  Funnily, I don’t even remember talking about periods with my best friend at the time.

What I do recall is crippling cramps and heavy, heavy periods during my teen years.  I remember missing school and curling around a hot water bottle to alleviate the pain.  I recall being terrified of leaks and hated slinking away to the washrooms to clean myself up throughout the day.  I hated the sense that I was supposed to hide something that was totally normal and pretend that it did not affect me in any way.

I cannot imagine a child younger than that immature 13 year old having to deal with the physical and emotional issues that surround menstruation.  I hope that – as a mother – I am able to prepare my two girls (3 and 8) to manage their own entrance into puberty and ‘womanhood’ in a manner that will make it far easier to endure.

The one thing different in our house is that our family is very open about our bodies and what happens with them.  The bathroom is not a private place unless you remember to lock the door.  Thus I get a lot of questions about what I am ‘doing in there’ and have found that being simple and honest has been the best for both my girls and my son.  Mostly my answers are greeted by ‘ewwww’s’ but that is fine.  These little discussions usually lead to bigger talks from my 8 year old when she is ready to sit down and talk on her own time about the changes in our bodies.

One fairly new question has been about the cloth, reusable pads I am now using.  I am very fortunate to be friends with the ladies behind Lunapads and a free sample from them was the start of my ‘reformation’ to the more ‘natural’ side of periods.   This has been a bit of a slow journey for me.   I recall years ago at a craft fair buying a cloth pad and gifting to my girlfriend more as a gag than anything.  I don’t think she ever used it.

I think my light bulb moment hit when I also had FINALLY tried cloth diapers for my third child.  Here I was happily washing and scrubbing the end products from my offspring, why then, was I remotely hinky about my own ‘end products’ to put it politely?  What difference would it make to be washing cloth products for me?

The decision to switch to the cloth pads also coincided with deciding to never ever use birth control pills again.   I had come to realize after getting through pregnancies that I really liked knowing my body and its rhythms.   Being able to know how I was supposed to feel without chemicals telling my body what to do was very liberating for me.  Why then – I thought – would I keep using something artificial like disposable pads (or tampons), things that were totally unnatural and potentially unhealthy.

Switching to cloth pads has been amazing for me.  By the end of my monthly cycle my labia and pubic bone would feel red and raw from the disposable pads.  I would hardly be able to wear one at night for the itching and discomfort.  For me, there was no alternative, I wasn’t used to tampons, had tried and never been happy or secure with them.  The cloth diapers were something that just had not occurred to me and I can’t believe I endured so many years without demanding a change.  For me it took the experience of four pregnancies and the laying out of my vagina for a cast of thousands to see, prod and poke to realize that it was up to me to take control of my body and how I wanted it cared for.   I wanted something soft and nontoxic up close and personal with my vagina.

This thinking was crucial to me fully realizing myself as a woman and what that really meant.  So much of what we think is the ‘norm’ is purely marketing on a cultural scale.  We are told to hide our periods and mask our natural scents, cover our faces with makeup, shape this, fake that….all by companies who have no thought but to make money and make us buy our products.

I don’t want that for myself or my kids.  I want my children – the girls and the boy – to understand what their bodies are supposed to do and supposed to feel like.  They need to feel comfort and joy in their selves without shame and without pressure from our commercialized culture.    It took me 42 years to figure it out; I want to ensure that it doesn’t take that long for them.


Kerry Sauriol is the Vancouver mom behind the blog Crunchy Carpets.  She has three children and sundry pets and tries to balance it all and keep her sanity. Her blog focuses on the juggling act called parenting. In her case the act of juggling a preschooler, two burgeoning ‘tweens,’ and keeping them all out of therapy when they are older.

Kerry has spoken at Northern Voice, been seen and heard on CBC, and featured in the Globe & Mail.  Beyond children, her other passion is social media and she runs a social media management company called SAHMedia.  You can find her on Twitter at @CrunchyCarpets.


  1. LOVE my Lunapads! I also have found that the open door policy on the bathroom has been surprisingly helpful in starting THE PERIOD conversation with both my
    son and daughter. It’s stuff they need to know after all so I might as well start young.

  2. oh my goodness I think you might have converted me… especially since I “sink cats” as my hubby tells me…

  3. I had the same reaction to those awful plastic disposable pads, so I started using tampons more, back in the day. When I found out about the Keeper menstrual cup, I got one & haven’t looked back. I replaced it with a silicone DivaCup, as you need a slightly different size after pregnancy & childbirth. Now that’s all I usually use, though I do have a stash of LunaPads. I just prefer an internal solution, so to speak. I love how capturing the blood ‘at the source’ shortens my period by about a day too. :)

    • i’m a huge fan of the DivaCup too now (and yes, my period seems shorter/less ferocious too), and with washable pads as back up there’s no way i go back to disposables willingly.

    • I have been using a Fleurcup menstrual cup since March of this year and there is no going back for me, I love it! No more uncomfortable, sweaty, blechhh disposable pads! I used to use all-natural organic tampons too but I still had to wear a pad with them so the menstrual cup is such an amazing thing for me :)

  4. Hi

    I have been wanting to step away from using tampons and pads, and use the DIVA CUP, but I read that it wouldn’t work for me because I have an IUD…..this really disappoints me. Any suggestions??

    • Liz,
      100% organic cotton tampons do not have the same TSS risk as traditional tampons containing viscose rayon. Also, research indicates use of a menstrual cup does not increase the risk of expelling the IUD any more than the use of a tampon would.

    • Liz,

      As long as your IUD is placed correctly, the DivaCup should not increase risk of expulsion. I used Lunapads for the first year after getting my IUD to be on the safe side, but started on the DivaCup afterward. I would suggest talking to your GYN about it before you switch, though.